When You Don't Want Divorce - Daughters of the Creator

Because you, Lord, have helped me and comforted me.

Psalm 86:17

Divorce is a terrible tragedy that our world has to deal with every day. We must be careful to give grace and recognize that many people didn’t want the divorce. It’s very difficult when a spouse is forced to end a relationship that was supposed to last until death. The pain can feel unbearable because trust has been broken and hearts are shattered. What is a believer to do when they are faced with a divorce they don’t want?

The most important step is to turn your heart towards God. He calls you to cast all of your cares on Him (1 Peter 5:7). He has always been a witness in your marriage and knows everything that was said and done behind closed doors (Malachi 2:14). The Lord will give wisdom, direction, and peace as you continue down this difficult journey. Because you turn to the Lord, there will be better days, for God takes care of His own (Psalm 37:25).

You will need time for meditation and reflection as the Lord leads you. Many well-meaning family and friends will give advice, and at times it will be difficult to know what to do. You will need to hear God’s voice above all other voices. His voice may lead you to a time of repentance for things you’ve said or done or a time of forgiveness for things said or done to you. He could lead you to seek restoration or to let go of an unrepentant spouse.

Whatever direction you are led, the Lord will give you the strength and courage to move forward. As you cling to the Lord in prayer, He may do a miracle and your spouse’s heart may change, leading to a renewed and restored marriage. This has happened for many couples; however, if it doesn’t happen for you, God is still faithful. He will honor your faith in Him with peace. Your marriage may end, but your life still has potential and purpose in Christ. Trust in Him.